Blog 2017-03-23T23:47:06+00:00

Running — Distractions From the Pain of Fully Feeling

December 17th, 2014|Comments Off on Running — Distractions From the Pain of Fully Feeling

Here I sit, no distractions. Just myself and this computer. I don’t even have anything fancy to say. I have not lit my fireplace or a single candle. Not even one stick of incense. I have removed my jewelry and cried off even the little bit of moisturizer I put on this morning. But my eyes are [...]

Tidal Wave – Love Tested

December 9th, 2014|Comments Off on Tidal Wave – Love Tested

  Here I am in a whisper of town nestled in the elbow crook of the Sacramento River valley. Alone, eating an omelet at a tiny café surrounded by a retired crowd of locals. A long way away from Southern France and the last home place of Mary Magdalene, Jesus’s most beloved disciple. That was [...]

Natural: Time to Put the Lessons to Use

May 16th, 2014|Comments Off on Natural: Time to Put the Lessons to Use

After all the techniques, all the therapy, the self-help books, hikes to commune with nature and the turning over of meaning with close friends, what is left to do? What happens when you have metabolized all the lessons for a while and feel annoyed at the process of transformation? You spread your wings, my friends, [...]

The Terror Involved in Loving

May 8th, 2014|Comments Off on The Terror Involved in Loving

Bravery can take on many forms. From raising your eyes to meet the stranger’s gaze at the coffee shop, to asking out your friend’s friend you just spent the last 30 minutes talking to. What is the risk factor with these types of things? What are you risking? Rejection? Unrequited affection? How do we come [...]

Passion & Magic: The Search for the Beloved

April 29th, 2014|Comments Off on Passion & Magic: The Search for the Beloved

Yes, I know, the Beloved is internal. Yet most of us have that desire to externally partner with a Beloved. Why is this urge so strong, powerful and compelling? Lusty, romantic, intriguing connections. I think about epic love stories, legions, and tales of wars starting over romantic love. Even at the god/goddess archetypal level, the [...]

Opening Up to True Love

April 23rd, 2014|Comments Off on Opening Up to True Love

What does it take to truly stand in the world as LOVE? To love yourself so thoroughly, the wobbly bits and the unfiltered shadowy parts with such tenderness that shining your light on the world becomes effortless. The choice has been made. You have stepped over the threshold. You MUST love. And in that act [...]

The Need for Rest: The Embodiment of Spiritual Practices

April 17th, 2014|Comments Off on The Need for Rest: The Embodiment of Spiritual Practices

In yoga, at the end of all the poses comes Savasana, Dead Man’s pose, where we lie flat on our backs, arms and legs gently splayed, eyes closed. Deep relaxation. From past years of listening to the Bikrim Yoga script, it has been drilled into my brain, “This is where your body reaps all the [...]

Dancing with the Beloved: Masculine and Feminine Energies

April 15th, 2014|Comments Off on Dancing with the Beloved: Masculine and Feminine Energies

We are familiar with rants of the opposite gender around trying to understand the inner workings of each other’s minds, hearts and spirits. How a woman versus a man responds can be radically different. The dynamic play of opposites, named as “feminine” and “masculine,” are seen externally in all relationships, whether straight or gay. What [...]

Claustrophobia – Heeding the Call to Transform

April 8th, 2014|Comments Off on Claustrophobia – Heeding the Call to Transform

Have you ever awoken on a sunny Sunday morning… And felt claustrophobic? Wanting a life BIGGER than you are currently living. To feel MORE? A soul longing… A soul calling… So many ways to turn for this ultimate growth. Beginning with self-inquiry and the turning inside for the play of the embodied Divine in ourselves. [...]

Yoga of Smashing Your Face

April 3rd, 2014|Comments Off on Yoga of Smashing Your Face

I am enrolled in a yoga teachers training. I am at the point in my own exploration of yoga postures where, to make significant progress in my poses, I must make peace with the possibility of smashing my face to the ground. Actually, this is not a possibility, but a reality. I am working on [...]

Sitting With Simple Self in Emptiness

April 1st, 2014|Comments Off on Sitting With Simple Self in Emptiness

Emptiness. Sitting with alone/loneliness. The crevice of space. Facing the Other, as Self. We all know the value in facing our fears, confronting challenging parts of ourselves, doing “the work,” as we call it in my circles. Distilling the lessons from the parts of ourselves we don’t like so much, working to accept these as [...]

Internal Geography: Finding Yourself

March 17th, 2014|Comments Off on Internal Geography: Finding Yourself

I’m a map girl. I love geography; I find it relaxing. I remember a friend of mine in grad school said there was nothing more relaxing for her than to pay bills each day as they arrived in the mail. Well, that is how I feel about maps. (Not bills!) I have a very good [...]

Blossoming Into Self-Truth and Forgiveness

March 14th, 2014|Comments Off on Blossoming Into Self-Truth and Forgiveness

Transmuting the Shadow Compassion, forgiveness... Forgiving what seems utterly unforgivable in ourselves. Where have you held onto severe judgments of yourself? They are in the deeper layers of the self, where we keep hidden, even from ourselves. And like little monsters stuck in the cracks of the floorboards, they creep out; small, dark, hairy, petrified, [...]

Signs of the Divine in Action – Everyday Miracles

March 3rd, 2014|Comments Off on Signs of the Divine in Action – Everyday Miracles

The Divine shows up in our lives every day.  In small ways and grand ways, miracles are happening. We can encourage these miracles by first recognizing them. Seeing the feather in your path as a token of love from your angels. Noticing the ways the Divine loves us and wants to be known to us [...]

When All Signs Point To… Slow Down

February 26th, 2014|Comments Off on When All Signs Point To… Slow Down

I recently got pulled over by a handsome cop for speeding. He asked me if I was racing off to a hot date. At 10 AM on a Thursday?? I guess it could happen, but I replied, “I wish!” Then it sank in, he was flirting with me. HA. This was the second speeding ticket [...]

Enjoying the Juicy Space Between Connection

February 11th, 2014|Comments Off on Enjoying the Juicy Space Between Connection

Meeting someone new, either a chance encounter at a workshop, on the dance floor, or an intentional “chemistry check” from an online connection, is titillating. Our brain chemistry and body hormones can wake up in an instant, sending our antennae into alert. Who is this person? What is this? Different parts of ourselves that respond [...]

The Importance of Dating Yourself

February 4th, 2014|Comments Off on The Importance of Dating Yourself

Recently I traveled to Seattle, WA. I feel the joy in this town full of fresh air and fresh experiences, sandwiched between water, in the foothills of the Olympian National Rain Forest. My vacation-self emerges: open, flexible, spontaneous, and sensual. My taste buds awaken with the unique ways of putting together food, drinks and conversation [...]

Getting to Yes: An Orgasmic Life!

February 1st, 2014|Comments Off on Getting to Yes: An Orgasmic Life!

Is your life a YES? What would it take to make your life exuberant, ecstatic, orgasmic? I like to play a game with myself; I see what it would take to say “yes” to all requests for my attention, time and energy. In the past, I automatically said “no.” Even when my mouth said “yes,” [...]

Dating Anxiety: Becoming a Love Warrior

January 25th, 2014|Comments Off on Dating Anxiety: Becoming a Love Warrior

Spring is in the air, right around the corner and the ladies in my life are dating! My friends, my clients and my support team: my assistant, my hair stylist, even the girl ringing me up at Trader Joe’s. Yes, the “girl” comes out in us when we are initially meeting someone. We want to [...]

“Mindfulness is Boring”

January 20th, 2014|Comments Off on “Mindfulness is Boring”

“Mindfulness is boring” so says my 8 year old daughter with a furlong look. This reminds me of the time I was teaching Mindfulness in my 11 year old son’s classroom and after 5 minutes, he started giving me the bug eyes and swiping his hand across his neck to get me to finish the [...]

Don’t Believe Everything You Think

January 14th, 2014|Comments Off on Don’t Believe Everything You Think

This line first appeared as a clever bumper sticker driving around the East Bay. I had to think about what this was saying. As a psychotherapist, I was taught that there were core beliefs, often deeply unconscious, that the mind would assume were true. A hallmark of most therapy traditions was this connection between thoughts [...]

Opening Up to Connection

January 10th, 2014|Comments Off on Opening Up to Connection

We all have the desire to connect with others. To share our deepest thoughts and to be understood by others. Many of us train ourselves out of the desire and humbly accept the frustrated unanswered conversation. Many of us talk to ourselves, some write in journals, some mutter over a beer or two. We let [...]

Don’t be afraid to die a little

December 13th, 2013|Comments Off on Don’t be afraid to die a little

Early winter is a time of fallow ground. We let the fields rest as we ourselves should rest. Many of my clients naturally experience this timely desire to slow down, spending more time inside being quiet with themselves or with close family and friends. What do you do when this desire to go in arises [...]

Changing Woman: Discharge and Reload

December 6th, 2013|Comments Off on Changing Woman: Discharge and Reload

Standing at the edge of the cliff looking into a spans of empty darkness. My consciousness lifts out of my body, the scene before me too traumatic to remain inside. I am alone, I am terrified, everything stands still, my body frozen to the spot. The ground rumbles and gives way, the cliff edge recedes. [...]

Surrender to the Divine Feminine

November 15th, 2013|Comments Off on Surrender to the Divine Feminine

Releasing the story of doing it ALONE! Who do you let help you? Is help easy for you to accept? Just this morning, while outside hanging a comforter to dry on the clothesline, I stumbled upon a neighborhood cat scuffling in the back corner of my garden. Upon assessing his situation, I saw that his [...]